I was tagged by ohonestly! I’ve done this questions meme before, here. I’m going to reuse some of those questions cause I still like ‘em. 

1. Always post the rules
2. Answer the questions the person who tagged you wrote and write your 11 new questions
3. Tag 11 new people
4. Tell them you’ve tagged them
5. Tag me so I can see your answer

I’m tagging some of the new people that started following this tumblr, would love to read your answers: peculiarsongs, theskeletonwitch, tele-scopicgeorgiagrrrl. bon-bon, recalcitrantcathy and okdunn. Also some frands wearethestory, pleasantdistractions, cankerbloxxom, and kissonthecanvas. Participation entirely voluntary!

2. Describe the plot of your favorite movie in one sentence without referring to its title and without naming locations, specific characters, or anyone involved in its production, and without spoiling the ending. Just be really vague, I don’t wanna be able to guess what the movie is

I never have a favourite anything because that doesn’t quite fit in with my relationship to things or works of pop culture/art, and now I wish there had been an app this whole time recording how many times I watched any movie just so I could at least just sum up the one I’ve watched most. Might be this one, in any case. Well, here goes:

A family of three clash because of their differing priorities; a group of outsiders inadvertently fuel this because of personal motivations involving lust, love and greed. 

8. Are you better at entrances or exits?

I think I’m bad at both. I think I’m better in the middle of things, when I’ve had time to warm up and get further away from the newness or strangeness of a situation and thaw myself out. I’ve always been a slow burner, and processing is something I take seriously so the entry and exit point of any occurrence are vulnerable moments for me. I never know what to do with my hands. 

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I found this on herstrionics' blog and nobody tagged me but get my voice all up in your floppy ears anyway! Highlights: MY FULL NAME which can't fit on my passport photo page, me speaking Malay, me forgetting what I called my paternal grandmother (they've all passed! memories fade, y'all!), me getting vocally confused, ME ME ME. #MEME

I had fun. I hope you don’t waste too much time listening to this instead of like, bettering yourself or helping the needy. Do this too and tag me so I can listen to your lovely voices!

  1. What is your name and/or username?
  2. Where are you from?
  3. Pronounce the following words: theatre, iron, salmon, caramel, fire, water, new orleans, furniture, both, again, probably, alabama, lawyer, coupon, mayonnaise, caught, naturally, envelope, twitter, new york, crayon, tumblr
  4. What would you call a sale of unwanted items on your porch, in your yard, etc.?
  5. What do you call your grandparents?
  6. What is a bubbly carbonated drink called?
  7. What do you call the wheeled contraption in which you carry groceries at the supermarket?
  8. Be a wizard or a vampire?
  9. How old are you?
  10. What colour are your eyes?
  11. What was the last thing you drank?
  12. Would you rather: Have a million dollars or a million friends?
  13. Do you think you have an accent?

I unabashedly love my own birthday. I’m a child! I love attention and being loved and cake and presents! I haven’t really celebrated my birthday in the past two years — 2012: working, fasting, breaking fast at KFC with Elza (lil lady sitting on the far left of the last picture); 2013: riding shotgun in a lorry with my little sisters outside Jakarta — and before that I spent it in Melbourne for four years, sometimes with friends but always far away from my best friends from home. This year, I’ll be working on the day itself, and I still feel a wobbly shame at how upset I am about that, about losing that day, even though I will be working on something important, something that’s been a long time coming, working with wonderful people on that day. 

Anyway, I decided to have a birthday dinner on Wednesday night, earlier than planned, so I could celebrate in a symbolic way my turning one year older. I wanted Mexican food and so I picked the one that seemed best and the most convenient based on online reviews (KL has like 12 Mexican places, so it wasn’t very hard to choose) and we went there, none of us having ever been. They didn’t have horchata, but the food and the ambience and the staff were all great. Elia (mini sombrero on the right) got me a balloon throne — “The balloons are in colours from Up! ‘cause you’re an old man.” — the staff brought out the guitar and put a giant birthday sombrero on me. At the end of the night I had Nadia’s earrings and Dhi's lipstick on, my bag two books and a box of chocolates heavier. I ate both the first and last slices of my own birthday cake, and when I took a breath before I blew out my candles, I found I didn't really have much to wish for. 

25’s been a good year for me, full of lessons and highs and personal reflection and (hopefully) growth. Friends have made comments recently that have hinted to me that my confidence is showing on my face as well as my actions. And that’s marvellous, really heartening to know. But always, always, I come back to being grateful above all (else I’ll float away on a cloud of inflated self-regard). I’ve spent a solid 14 years with a lot of the people in the photo above, our friendships expanding and solidifying through time. I had three hours with them last night and it felt barely enough. But I have them, grounding me and buoying me both. I have had them, and I will continue to have them, and that’s my best gift, sorry to open the can of creamed sentimentality over here. 

I’m really looking forward to 26. I’m so young yet, and so excited! I’m just discovering that some hats might actually look good on me! It’s gonna be a good year! 

personality types!

reblog with your personality types bolded, for your own reference, or for your followers to get to know you better! 

name: Syar

zodiac: aries, taurus, gemini, cancer, leo, virgo, libra, scorpio, sagittarius, capricorn, aquarius, pisces

myers-briggs: istj, isfj, infj, intj, istp, isfp, infp, intp, estp, esfp, enfp, enfj, esfj, estj, esfj, enfj, entj, entp

the four temperaments: melancholic, phlegmatic, choleric, sanguine

enneagram: type one, type two, type three, type four, type five, type six, type seven, type eight, type nine 

alignmentlawful good, neutral good, chaotic good, true neutral, lawful neutral, chaotic neutral, lawful evil, neutral evil, chaotic evil

I am feeling self conscious about how many selfies I am posting at once on the Internet but also 1) these are good selfies 2) lately I have been feeling great about myself body image wise 3) never apologize for selfies and 4) SIX SELFIES MEME. Thank you Tumblr for enabling every bad habit I have ever even thought of having. 

Syar’s 2013 End of Year Review: Recommendations

In case any of you are looking for things to read/listen to/check out:

25. What’s your new favourite thing this year?

  • Katy and Katie: Just The Tips, my fave new webseries
  • The Toast, home of the inimitable Mallory Ortberg & Nicole Cliffe
  • Sleeping in a queen bed after a lifetime of sleeping in a single
  • Showing up late to things sometimes

26. What were the best books you read? 

  • Life on Mars by Tracy K. Smith
  • Dispatch From the Future by Leigh Stein
  • Inferno (a Poet’s Novel) by Eileen Myles
  • Blue Nights & The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
  • How Literature Saved My Life by David Shields
  • Leaving the Atocha Station by Ben Lerner
  • What There Is To Say We Have Said: The Correspondence of Eudora Welty and William Maxwell edited by Suzanne Marrs
  • A Field Guide to Getting Lost by Rebecca Solnit
  • Lives of Girls and Women by Alice Munro

27. What was on frequent rotation on your iTunes this year? 

So let’s get this out of the way, my top 5 favourite songs off BEYONCÉ in rough order are: XO, ***Flawless, Pretty Hurts, Blow, and Partition.

Full review here.

Syar’s End of Year Review: 2013

This is my third year doing these! The original questions are from Stephanie. I changed up a few, and left some blank just to make this shorter (if anyone does this review, I’d love to see your answers!). For recs, I talk about books in Q26 and music in Q27. You can see my answers for 2011 and 2012.

1. What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before? 

  • Read a long poem in front of an audience
  • Planned and threw a baby shower with my best ladies!
  • Met Stephanie (of this very review!) for the first time
  • Met my salty-brown-girl-sassy-broad-third-culture-kid-soulsister Dhany for the first time!
  • Holidayed in Corsica
  • Made a video for ISSUE that got exhibited at a tiny London gallery
  • Got high on laughing gas
  • Sad things connected to question 4
  • Visited my stepmum’s village outside Jakarta
  • Held my lovely friend Mawar’s five-day-old daughter
  • Met my friend Lucy’s beautiful boy Gus
  • Saw Bastille live for all of 20 minutes at Vic Market!
  • Attended an amazing activism/empowerment workshop for young women
  • Worked my first freelance gig writing about business aviation
  • Collaborated on one of my favourite creative pieces of the year with my ladies Dhi and Syaz
  • Saw The Killers, Explosions in the Sky, Tegan and Sara, and Metric live in concert
  • Participated in a friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid!
  • Taught creative writing and arts & crafts to kids!

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