“For as long as I can remember, there’s been this sub-breed of girls and women who seem to think that not having female friends is a noteworthy, noble way to live. “Guys don’t cause drama,” they say. “Girls are catty/ jealous of me/ the devil,” they say. To those girls, I have a response: the problem is you, not every other woman in the universe.
We’re talking a very specific group of women, here. The ones who glorify their friendships with men — who are more than capable of exhibiting the same negative traits as any other human — while simultaneously demonizing women, as though we all took a pact at birth to be one unified, reprehensible force. I’m speaking of women with this attitude, specifically: not shy women, not introverted women, but the women who paint every other gal with the Petty Bitch Paintbrush and call it a day without getting to know them as individuals. (Hint: it turns people off to hear that you aren’t open to being friends with people “of their kind.” That isn’t the kind of sentiment that makes people feel all warm and tingly, and it’s probably the one thing preventing you from having female friends.)
So, ladies who think men are the antidote to ~dRaMa~ fueled vagina holders — the attitude that all women are evil, conniving, and not worth your time is just, statistically, silly. You can’t get along with roughly 50% of the population? That sounds like a You problem.”
If You Don’t Have Girl Friends, I Feel Sorry For You, (via unhappie)
I used to be this girl! For years, I was this girl. It’s okay, though. There is hope.
I think a lot of women go through this phase; I went through it in middle school and part of high school; fortunately I got my head out of my ass and realized that the girls around me were people, complicated and funny and interesting and kind, just like all the boys I’d sworn were the only friends I’d ever have.
So don’t worry if you used to do this - you can always stop! But remember: disliking other girls in a lump doesn’t make you cool. It makes you a dick.
A lot of girls do this because we’re told constantly that being a female is inferior. By criticizing other females, we elevate ourselves to some new category of being almost-male. I used to do this too :(
All of this. (except that not all vagina-holders are women. other than that all of this.)
(Source: disparatre, via sawtheoptimist)